“Heart Change, Not Behavior Modification”

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Episode Summary

When you focus on the heart, it transforms your whole approach to parenting

We all want obedient and respectful kids but the usual behavior modification approach just doesn’t work very well long term. It’s like pulling weeds but leaving the roots. You’ve got to get to the root of the issue which is your kids’ heart. Do you have your kids’ hearts? Is your focus to get their obedience or to focus on the heart of the issue? Let’s point our kids to Jesus in the midst of conflict. When they disobey you they are disobeying God. When you’re focused on the heart it transforms your whole mindset and approach to correcting your kids.

Main Tips From This Episode:

  1. Focus on the heart, not behavior.
  2. A changed heart changes behavior.
  3. Point them to Jesus especially when they’re in conflict.
  4. You can’t change a person’s heart, but God can.
  5. Pray for God to work on their hearts.
  6. Treat symptoms immediately.

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Scripture In This Episode:

2 Corinthians 5:17 – “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.”

Hebrews 4:12 – “For the word of God is living and powerful, and sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing even to the division of soul and spirit, and of joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart.”

Proverbs 4:23 –Keep your heart with all diligence,
For out of it spring the issues of life.”

Ephesians 6:1 – “Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.”

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Welcome to Courageous Parenting podcast, a weekly show to equip parents with biblical truth on raising confident Christian kids in an uncertain world.

Hi, I’m Angie from courageous

Mom and I’m Isaac from Resolute Man.

We’ve been married for twenty one years and have seen the fruit from raising our eight kids biblically. Based on the raw truth found in the

Bible, we can no longer let the culture win the hearts of children. Too many children from Christian families are walking away from their faith by age 18, and it doesn’t have to be this way. It shouldn’t be this way. Join us as we start an important conversation about effective parenting and the fall. Hey, welcome to the podcast. Hey, guys, how are you doing?

We are so excited to talk to you about a really crucial but very, very sweet and to the point topic today.

Very practical. Everybody, I think, will love this because at one time or another, we have disobedient children, don’t we?

Sometimes I think everybody does. And while every parent just wants someone to tell them what to do, they’re like, Give me an equation for parenting. My kids are doing X, Y and Z. The reality is, is that it’s not all about their behavior, is it?

No, it’s really about the heart. If you focus on behavior, you’re not focused on the root cause. So it’s like pulling weeds. If you just tear the top of the weeds

And you leave the root,

Then the weeds just grow back. But if you tend to the real issue the root of the problem, the heart. Now you’re getting somewhere.

That’s right, so today’s podcast topic is called heart change, not behavior modification. I think that this is one that all parents, regardless of age of their kids, is going to need to remember over and over and over again. So we could probably put this podcast on repeat. I know this is something that I’ve preached to myself over the years, and I still need to hear it.

I do, too. I mean, every day I’ll do it wrong. I will, you know, let things get to me when they shouldn’t because I’m the parent. I’m the leader in this situation, so I shouldn’t let things get to me. But they do sometimes. And then I don’t look at the situation, the conflict situation with kids in the right way. So it’s so important. So we’ll dive into that in a second. But first of all, thanks so much for being part of the one million legacy movement. It really is just getting going, and we’re so excited about what’s coming down the pike and all the things that God is pressing on our hearts to do to expand the impact of the ministry and also make it able to continue from a thriving perspective in these really weird times.

Weird. I mean, they’re uncertain. They’re uncertain. I mean, what is the tagline raising confident, courageous kids and for an uncertain world? Yeah. And every day we have to live like what? Like today’s our last but prepare as if there’s one hundred generations more coming. Yeah. And so you guys, we are just so appreciative of all the things that the ratings on iTunes, the comments, the reviews, the emails, the text messages that we get from you, it spurs us on. We literally couldn’t do it without you. One of the things that I think I had on my heart just for these next few months and wherever the world is leading is it’s so important that you are in contact with us. We need your email. We need if you prefer text messaging, we actually have text messaging systems that we can do to communicate with you privately. Guys can text Isaac privately, girls can text me, and so we’ll

Put those in the links in bio somehow. Since you just mentioned

It, right? Yeah, there’s like a specific phone number and I know this. They use hashtag courageous mom to the specific. So, so to find that blog post, go to Courageous Parenting Dot, go to the menu and hit on that and then podcast latest episode.

We’ll give you direction on that and all resources. All notes are there, as you guys know. So by the way, if you’ve been along the ride for a while on the movement, sometimes movements can get a little bit stale because we’ve been along the journey, we’re getting refreshed right now. We hope that your refreshed right now and you can come along the journey with vigor and enthusiasm with us to have a major indelible impact for the gospel. Most importantly, in the homes in America and equally in value all around the world. So we’re so excited about that and what’s happening. So why don’t we kick it off with the scripture, honey?

Ok, so we’re going to read in Second Corinthians Chapter five, verse 17, it says. Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. Old things have passed away. And behold, all things have become new. I think this is a crucial Bible verse to remember as a parent when our kids are born. What does the Bible say? What a proverb say what a Psalms say about children, right? That they there’s folly bound up in the heart of the child. It, it says, for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God. Yes, that means even little kids, right? They sin. At times we see selfishness. Right? I mean, are we going to take our blinders off and be really honest about what we see in our kids lives? At times we love them and we cherish them, but we also need to operate in reality and remove the rose tinted glasses. And this says if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old things have passed away. Behold, all things have become new. I think sometimes it’s hard for us as parents to give our kids a clean slate, to give anybody a clean slate, to recognize that they’ve changed, to let people grow. And when our kids become Christians and when our kids are learning about Jesus, we need we. We are image bearers of God, right? God the father in this relationship to them. And he is a forgiving God who gives us clean slates over and over again, and we need to be able to do that with our kids. And so this verse is just so important, especially as your kids are getting older to not let those old sins that maybe they struggled with loom over them in their reputation that they’ve maybe grown or the labels that are in your head about them.

It alters completely the rhythm of communication with people in your family. We take each other for granted sometimes, and we remember all those past ways of somebody and you don’t allow them to grow up, allow your kids to grow up. Remember, kids rise to the level of responsibility you give them, but they also rise to the level of respect you give them. And one thing that I’ve seen work really well is to show more respect sometimes than someone in our family actually deserves. So what does that mean? It means maybe they haven’t displayed a reason to respect them. It’s in an area. But when you do as their leader, they rise. They aspire to be at that level of respect you have. Ok, so it’s always genuine in the way I do it. I’m never like falsely, you know, respecting something that isn’t there. There’s elements of it. It’s be a good finder is a better way to say it, be a good finder. And don’t let the trappings of their past sins catch up every time there’s conflict.

Right? I would say that you are much better at that than me. I’m just even thinking about, you know, some parents listening might go, Wait a minute, you’re showing respect to your kids. Like, doesn’t the Bible say that children are don’t honor their parents and love and respect them? And yes, that’s very true. But we need to model it to our kids and how we treat one another in marriage, but also in how we treat our children right because they need to feel respect and go, Oh, that really feels good. And I love my parents, so I want them to feel that same feeling that they just gave me. And that’s a give give relationship versus a take take relationship. And I know that this is this might sound backwards because this is not. This is stuff that we’ve just learned by trial and error and and evaluating how like even our childhood and evaluating our relationships with other adults over the years and gone. You know what? Respect is a really important thing, and we need to give it without expecting it in return when it’s not deserved. Those are the parts that I’m still working on and need to work on. I struggle with it a lot more than you do.

I think, well, I think I had a lot of practice because I used to lead thousands of college students in the work world,

And I deserve respect.

I just learned that if I assume the best assumed virtue and respect them, they aspire to rise to that. And it’s like a positive vacuum in their identity, changes in a very positive direction and they rise up to it. And I just saw that with so many people that are young adults that, you know, kids, young adults, adults, we’re all human. So I have

To say something, though, because this is a really big deal. There are a lot of Christians who are raised up in the church and they have this authoritarian perspective on parenting. And yes, you are an authority in your children’s life. We are not for like, hey, be your friend, your kids, best friends and don’t be your parent, be their parent. That that did not work. That was like the parenting style of our parents’ generation, actually. And that’s not what we’re saying here. There is you are an authority in your kids lives for sure, and God placed you in their life, and they should respect that for sure. However, like, you can’t force someone to respect you. And so the best way for. Them to be able to respect you is for you to live in a way that is respectable, but also to respect them, and then it’s given in return and I can testify that I’ve witnessed this in how Isaac, parents, the kids and I would say that overall, they have way more respect for him than me, who I don’t know about struggled like, well, I just mean that this has been something that I have personally struggled with over the years and giving respect when they don’t deserve it, necessarily in the way that I’m talking to them. And that’s something that I’ve been constantly working on, and I have to be reminded of this. Why this is a good topic. I think that moms who are with their kids all the time and seeing it and they’re like the issues, the struggles, all the time, it’s hard to be respectful in the way that you talk to your kids, but you need to be because I see you do that and I see them and the way that they respect you and honor you and the kids respect and honor me too. But I’m just saying, you guys, this works. I’ve seen it. I’ve seen it powerful in our kids lives.

So well, let’s dive into this and even more. I mean, kids love and respect you because they’re your parents. But what you just said right there, don’t you want them to respect you just because, wow, they really, really respect.

Like, it’s a genuine thing that they don’t have to work hard at because the Bible says to do that, right? Like because they love you and they see then your godliness and righteousness in your life and they want to listen to you because they they trust you and they love you

And your words have that much more weight to them. They care that much more about every word you say. Yeah, that’s why it’s so important. I just posted this. You got to be careful what words you use if we’re trying to capture our kids hearts. Do you have your kids hearts? It might be a good thing to think about.

Do you do you have your kids hearts and then ask the next question who has your kids hearts?

If you’re over delegating someone else might have your kid’s heart?

Maybe the media media is like, This is a thing, right? But there are people represented on the media who and if you’re not influencing your kids, maybe media has your kids hearts and is influencing them. I’ve seen this massively among young adults. Does God have young adults hearts or does the media? That’s a really important question, right? Like, you’ve got all these Christians out there, professing Christianity or professing to believe in God, but yet who do they allow to influence them? Is it the word of God? Is it God that influences them? Or is it the culture and society and media? And so it really important questions.

Now you can’t change a person’s heart. Well, that’s really encouraging, Isaac.

Right? But it’s a biblical truth. Remember, the title of this podcast is heart change, not behavior modification. And so the reality is, is every parent’s going, OK, so are they going to tell me how to change my kid’s heart? You can’t. The Holy Spirit changes a person’s heart. God is the potter. We are the clay. But we have influence and can point our kids towards God, and we have massive impact in that.

So in parenting, what is your number one goal is to nurture a relationship with God to your kids because he is the one that changes their hearts and then therefore makes them much easier to work with in parent. And if you if the heart is fixed, the behavior changes.

That’s right. I mean, it’s literally what we just read in First Corinthians. If anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old things pass away. Behold, all things become new. This is what we want for our kids. We want the old things to pass away. We want there the behavioral sin issues of early childhood selfishness to pass away, if you will, right that they would become selfless and generous and kind, right? That happens when they become new in Christ. So the reality is is we can’t change our kids hearts. So it’s the first thing we do. This is something you can do as a parent. Pray like when you become a realize I can’t change my child’s heart and only God can while I’m going to intercede on their behalf and I’m going to ask God for all things with big faith that he can move mountains, that he can do miracles, that he can make things new, that he can resurrect the dead with that kind of power.

We pray for our kids. And you can pray with your kids now when you put them to bed, for example, do you have a canned prayer you always say, or is there something heartfelt going on right where you’re talking to God in your children are talking to God with you? Is there something real and deep and meaningful? There doesn’t. Meaningful and deep doesn’t mean long. I know we’re trying to get on with other things, but let’s spend some time praying with our kids to write and ask them.

You know, I think that one of the most powerful things is when you ask your kids, I remember the other night I came home from a bridal shower and Isaac was like, Hey, Angie, you want to put the kids to bed tonight? Do you want to read them a book and stuff? Or do you want me to do it? Where are we going to do? And I went in and well, the kids sat and read books with me. We did our bedtime routine and then when I went in to put them to bed and I have this little song that I sing to them that my mom used to sing to me, that’s a psalm, to a song. I think she made it up. And they always want to sing. And then I said, OK, so tonight, let’s pray. But what do you want? What’s on your heart? What do you want me to pray for? And Solomon, of course, always. He’s very thoughtful, and he leads Eli by sharing his thoughtfulness. And I was really just encouraged that he was like, I want to pray for Austin and Caroline. Hmm. And I was like, Wow, you’re just so I mean, how thoughtful is that that he, he recognizes varied.

And he knows Austin’s been working hard. He got a new job, so he’s been gone more. We haven’t seen Caroline a long time because she’s living in Montana, and he, you know, it was just on his mind and on his heart, and I was like, How sweet? And then Eli goes, and I want to pray for Papa. And that’s kind of he always wants to pray for my dad every night, which is super sweet. And so we sat and we prayed for the things they prayed for. And then I had some things on my heart for the boys like attitude things and that they would sleep peacefully and they wouldn’t get sick and just pray for health over them. And it was a really sweet time. It wasn’t super, super long, but I’m sharing that with you because see how you involve the kids and what God is the Holy Spirit like? Do you do you allow the Holy Spirit to be moving in your kids lives and acknowledge it by asking them what they want to pray for?

That’s pointing them to a relationship with Jesus. It’s activating them in their relationship with God. It is so, so powerful. So praying is super key. Teaching to the Bible is such a powerful tool for teaching. I mean, it is incredible, and we just did devotions this morning. I can’t say that our two littles were the most paying attention this morning, but

But they were quiet.

It’s amazing. Even when people, it looks like they’re not paying attention.

You don’t know how much they’re getting.

I think it’s having an impact. It’s having. I just trust. I just trust inside. That’s having impact, whether people look like they’re into it or not. And it’s also cute to be good at it, too.

And how many times has Solomon or Eli said things so clearly they are so good at communicating they have been since early on? Right. And sometimes youngest kids in big families especially have a hard time communicating. But our kids have been talking since they were very, very little, and the words that they use are like big people words. And it surprises people. But the things that they say are so deep. Sometimes I don’t know if you guys listen to Solomon’s very short, but very clear and encouraging podcast on Friday. I think I listened to it five or ten times, which was about obedience. It was a five year old’s perspective on obedience. So stinkin cute. But he you guys his heart. I just love his heart, and he wanted to point people to God and to loving your parents. And I just I think that that his thoughts and the things that he thinks on and meditates on himself are from being in these Bible meetings over and over and over again. They’re like little sponges and they soak up truth.

So two different approaches here. It’s Christian family busy not reading the Bible very often. Not praying very often, maybe not worshiping.

Often, the

Kids conflict or disruption is a disruption to parents agenda. Parents lose patience and they’re not focusing on the heart. They’re focused on the behavior. Short term fix, they try and fix it in whatever way they feel is most important to fix it, which you have to make a decision on, depending on what it is and the kid it is, and you figure out what, what you’re going to do there and then you move on as fast as you can to your own agenda. And bah bah bah bah bah. And then what are you building over time? You’re building a behavior modification approach because I don’t want a wrong mom or I don’t want a wrong dad. And then the

Kids are like walking on eggshells in those.

And then the other. The other approach is to focus on the heart to be disciplined, training your kids, to activating a relationship with God in their lives,

By relationship with you,

By relationship with you as well. And it’s just a whole different perspective. It shifts your focus. It allows you to be more patient. It gives you the stamina to take longer in the process of correcting your kids by. Focusing him on how they’ve wronged God because the Bible says children obey your parents in the Lord for this is right. And so if we’re not helping them to reconcile with God when they’ve disobeyed us, we’re not focusing on the heart of the issue.

Yeah. And I think that, you know, disobedience, all of these topics are such huge topics. We go in depth on them explaining using tons of scripture in the Courageous Parenting Mentor program, which, by the way, we have another one starting this week soon. So if you have not signed up and done that yet, you, you really need to. You can find out more about that at courageous parenting. But I will say there is an important conversation here regarding, you know, kids, do they obey you because they love you? Or do they obey you because they fear you and they shouldn’t be fearful of parents? And I think that that’s the whole point is like if you’re focused on their heart and you’re you’re aware that how you are talking to your kids is going to also impact your relationship with them and that there are times when you need to reconcile in your human and your grace giving to them. You are teaching them by what you model, which is the next aspect, right? Like, are you modeling a changed multiple heart before God to your kids? So not only do we need to pray for our kids and then teach them what the word says and what got the power that God can have in their life. We need to teach them the Bible. We need to teach them literally what the Bible says about having a heart of clay. You can use Plato as a perfect little role-play example.

You can have that out and go. This is how God wants our hearts to be. Is your heart like Plato to Jesus? Because if it is, then that means that when we read the Bible and it says, obey your parents or it says be kind to everyone or it says, go to your brother first, you know, thinking about just even talking to our teenagers and going, Hey, listen, are you tattle tailing? You need to go to your brother or your sister first, and you need to deal with this situation. This is what the Bible says is your heart, Plato in that palm of God, in the Bible. Like, if if the Bible is God’s hand and your heart is in it, is he able to mould you? Are you being obedient to what the Bible is saying? That’s what’s important now if parents are asking, obviously, when we’re talking about disobedience here, this is for new people who might be listening. Obviously, as parents, we cannot be asking our kids to be doing something that’s going to be in disobedience to scripture. When we are talking about children obeying your parents, we’re assuming that there are like minded parents that are listening that are not going to be leading these little ones astray. Because Bible does say in Matthew six, it would be better for them to have Milsom hung around their

Neck and children should disobey their parents. If they ask you to do something against the Bible or, yes, standing against their for their kids or anything like that.

Absolutely. We’re assuming virtue when we’re doing these podcasts that people who are listening, people who are seeing our posts on social media are like minded Christians. And obviously these parents would not be going against God’s word and what they’re asking of their kids.

Hey, real quick. And we have a final point for you. That’s super important. Would you join us in the parenting mentor program? I invite you. Go to courageous parenting, learn all about it. We have a full session on the heart, which has all the scriptures, tons of scriptures, the parenting packet and the full session, which is just one in part of a 10 plus hours of curriculum at Self-Paced. It is an incredible program over, I think, two thousand parents. Now, if you count, the husband and the wife have been through the program and are literally raving about it, and I don’t take the credit for that. And Angie doesn’t God literally told us to do this.

We’re using this word

Using his word. That’s it. And sharing what he taught us through his people and his word over the years and what we’ve experienced in fruit from raising our now nine kids from ages

Four months old to twenty one.

Yeah, and we’re about to launch our second kid out of the home. And so it is. I just implore you and these uncertain times. Yeah, you’ve got to take the parenting mentor program. Yes. Does it benefit? The ministry does enable us to do these free podcasts and all these things. Yeah, we couldn’t do this unless people were going through the program. But secondarily, most importantly, it is extremely valuable. In fact, the principles in there help us still, because just because you know, something doesn’t mean you’re doing it, but because we’re involved in the parenting mentor program, we’re doing lives on a regular basis. It keeps us sharp, too. We’re in there with you.

I mean, we’re in the trenches, too, like you guys. Yes, in a few weeks, our second child is going to be launching from our home, but we still have seven living with us. And so like, that’s why we’re able to keep being doing these podcasts is that. You know, our first primary jurisdiction is our family. Yeah. As a team, you and I mean, obviously it’s like the Lord, our marriage and then our family, but we’re in the trenches every day. So we talk about things that are relevant to what we’re walking through as parents of babies, toddlers, small children, middle aged children, teenagers, preteens, adults, we have it all. And so I just really want to encourage you guys. The next verse we’re going to share is from Hebrews 4:12, it says for the word of God is living in powerful and sharper than any two edged sword piercing even to the division of soul and spirit and of joints and marrow. And it is discernable of the thoughts and intense of the heart.

So that’s this

We were just talking about is your, you know, talking to your littles is your heart, Plato in the word of God, in the hand of God. And this is why, because it’s the Bible knows better than the parents know. Yeah, God knows better than we know. And so we have to be in the word as parents as well to be able to discern how we should be parenting. But we also need to take our kids to the word because it is what is living. It is powerful. It is sharper than a two edged sword. It’ll convict. The spirit of that is inside your child far better than anything you could ever say?

Well, and as your kids get a little older, two and older, it’s important to know what’s in the hearts and minds of your kids, right? There’s a quote great leaders know what’s in the hearts and minds of their people. Well, in this case, your people are your kids and the Holy Spirit when it’s more activated in you, meaning you’re pressing in your relationship with God and prayer reading the Bible. Dwelling upon the scriptures, you’re more inclined to hear the spirit about your kids to be convicted about things and to be proactive in conversations with your kids that you might not otherwise do. Because you’re not. You’re not allowing the spirit to convict you. You’re not paying attention. Yeah, and the spirit will prompt you on what to do with your kids. Even impromptu like, Wow, this kid, I think something’s on his mind. I think you need to go talk to him just out of the blue and then you go talk to him and oh, thank you, God, right? There was something really important to talk about.

Yeah. And on a really practical level, teaching your kids the word what we were talking about. I just want to give you an example. Proverbs Twenty three, twenty three, says my son. Give attention to my words. Have we have we sat down with our kids and had this conversation where we say, this is what the Bible says? Let me read it to you, my son. Give attention to my words. Incline your ear to my sayings, Are you listening to me? The Bible saying, to listen to your parent, do not let them depart from your eyes. Keep them in the midst of your heart for they are life to those who find them like, Are you? Are you having this conversation? Like, Are you in the word? Are you talking to your 12 year old and saying, Are you reading the Bible? Because this is what the God’s telling you he’s saying to read his word for their life, to those who find them in health, to all their flesh. Keep your heart with all diligence for out of it. Spring the issues of life.

So good, so good. So let’s talk about treating symptoms immediately.

Ok, so you know, one of the things that’s on everyone’s mind right now because of pandemic, but also just because we’re in the fall. It’s cold and flu season. And when your parents, you deal with your kids getting sick, sometimes, right? So if your kid, if if you’re paying attention to your kids and you notice that maybe they like are holding their head like they have a headache, or maybe they’re a little bit more cranky, or maybe they have a runny nose that’s starting. These are all like first hand symptoms that can potentially turn into a more severe cold. Well, this is the exact same thing with behavior and heart, OK? When you see your kids start getting a sniffling nose like, OK, so when I see that I grab the sniffles roller or I grab vitamins while I do both, I grab the vitamins, I get the diffusers going. I have the kids take a nap that day. We treat symptoms right on so that the cold doesn’t get bigger. And this is the exact same thing we need to be doing when we see little symptoms of sin and heart issues in our kids. But a lot of times parents don’t do that.

They don’t want to deal with the the the little things, because then they feel like they’re like nitpicking, right? And then guess what happens over time, that little bit of selfishness? Or those little lies little white lies as my grandparents used to call them little white lies? Well, I’m sorry. It’s a lie. It’s a lie. A lie is a lie, right? And so if we see this as an issue when it’s little and we talk to our kids and we communicate to them about what the Bible thinks about that and how we’re concerned for them and we have a conversation with them versus just ignoring it because it wasn’t that big of a deal. I don’t really want to deal with that. If we deal with it when it’s little, then it’s not going to turn into. This big, huge sin issue, and it’s the same, it’s the same like with weeds, right? Like if you pull the weed when they’re smaller, they come out so much easier and they don’t turn into these enormous, huge thistles that have Polk’s that take you a half an hour to get out. And so he

Allows you to bleed. Here’s the challenge, though it’s disruptive to your agenda and disruptive to what you have going on. So sometimes you literally can’t address it. Let’s say you’re on a phone call or you’re doing something that you can’t stop. You have to be good at remembering and circling back. A lot of parents don’t circle back and go, Hey, this was wrong, but you do want to attend to it as soon as you possibly can. And sometimes it’s just a conversation because it hasn’t blown into something really big. Well, isn’t that your turning to the heart?

Yeah. And it’s so much better to be equipping your kids so that they don’t fall into the pit of bondage like it’s literally bondage. Sin is a bondage. And so if we love our kids, we’re going to warn them about the temptations of sin and what the little things that we’re seeing. And we go, Hey, no, it’s not that it’s not a super huge deal. It’s just something that I’ve noticed. And I really don’t want this to become a big issue in your life. This is a character thing, hun. Like, you see how having that conversation is so much better than the bigger, more intense conversation when they’ve committed some more severe sin with consequences that probably are much more intense, right? Like, maybe they end up losing a friendship over something that was a character quality that should have been talked about when they were younger to not get them to that place.

So well, hey, we hope this was helpful and edifying to you. Hmm. Take it to heart.

And thanks for joining us. See you next time. Hey, thanks for listening to this episode. For more resources, go to courageous parenting and courageous mom for free online workshops, blog posts and best selling courses. Also, we wanted to quickly tell you about our six week online parenting mentor program. Isaac and I created a powerful biblical curriculum. Here’s how it works. Each week, we release a video with a downloadable parenting packet to make it easy for you to incorporate those teachings directly into your parenting.

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Written By Angie Tolpin
Angie has been married to Isaac for 19 years and together they have eight children, whom she homeschools. She is the Founder of CourageousMom.com, a doula, the author of the best-selling book Redeeming Childbirth, and the creator of the first ever Christian Postpartum Course. Angie loves ministering to Women and has created a few online Bible Studies on Biblical Friendship and Motherhood.

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