Our Settlement With God is Grey – All the Details

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We have found a productive path forward with Brenda of “God is Grey”, tune in to get the details and know-how to support us moving forward.

You may or may not know that we have been in a difficult situation over the last eight months but we are happy to share that it has been resolved and share all the details in this episode.

Context on what this is about:

  • About 8 months ago an online influencer who is a self-proclaimed leader in the progressive Christian movement did a podcast episode that included our family.
  • We filed a lawsuit against the podcaster for defamation. 
  • We are happy to share that we’ve mutually agreed to solve this together and want to share the outcome with you all.
  • When the episode came out we promptly responded by giving a written statement in an effort to solve it amicably.
  • In it, we led by saying “We listened to the entire episode and our hearts go out to Stelle. It is devastating for us to hear her testimony. If what Stelle is describing happened, it is horrendous and tragic, it is clear she is very hurt and our heart hurts for her. It is the opposite of what we believe regarding marriage and parenting. It’s also not what exists within our family culture.”

We are so thankful for so many of your prayers, encouragement, and financial support during the last eight months as we worked on this. We couldn’t have done it without you.

We’ve never let life circumstances detour us from the mission God has us on, and so we pressed on in ministry while working on solving this. Despite the heavy costs of time, stress, opportunity cost, relationships, and financial burden, it was worth it.

We feel good about the outcomes that were achieved: 

  • We worked together and mutually agreed to final statements by both parties about the situation.
  • Both parties are required to do a podcast reading our respective statements. 
  • Neither party can disparage the other, otherwise face a fine per incidence

Here are the mutually agreed upon public statements:


“We are pleased to announce that we and Brenda Davies have mutually agreed to put our differences aside and resolve the litigation between us. This decision came after much deliberation, prayer, and communication between us.

Our intent was always towards truth and resolution. Brenda has confirmed that her video was not designed to accuse us of child abuse or to insinuate that we knew Stelle, her family or her siblings before Stelle was an adult.

To be clear, as we’ve stated from the beginning, we’ve never read, or taught any of the Pearl’s teachings on parenting and, were never mentored by the Jacobsons in marriage and parenting, and didn’t know Stelle, her family or her siblings until she was an adult.

We have learned a lot from this experience and are thankful for all the prayerful encouragement and financial support we received from both our online and real-life community. We are also thankful for God’s grace to help us be compassionate towards one another and reach a productive path forward.”


“For those who are aware of the existing lawsuit between Angie and Isaac Tolpin and I, I wanted to inform you that after much deliberation and communication, we have agreed to put our differences aside and end the litigation between us.

To be clear, I do not believe the “We Did It Out of Love” video accused the Tolpins of being involved in the alleged abuse of Stelle Jacobson (no relation to the Tolpins) nor of physically abusing their own children – nor was it intended as such. 

Although I do not believe it was directly addressed, I also want to make clear that Isaac and Angie didn’t know Stelle, her family or her siblings until Stelle was an adult.

I am incredibly grateful to everyone who contributed to my legal fees and supported me and Stelle through this difficult process. We are glad that this is now behind us.”

Closing Thoughts:

We have zero expectations that our lives will be comfortable or get any easier with the speed of change happening in the world as we work to share the Gospel and Biblical truth. But isn’t that what Paul talked about and exemplified with his life?

We would love your continued prayers, appreciate the encouragement, and would absolutely embrace any financial support to help us finish out our legal fees, the remaining of which are $27,483.86. If the spirit prompts you, here’s the link.

We are so happy this is over so we can spend more energy on new resources to help parents and glad we are able to share a positive outcome with you all. We are praising God for His goodness.

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Written By Angie Tolpin
Angie has been married to Isaac for 19 years and together they have eight children, whom she homeschools. She is the Founder of CourageousMom.com, a doula, the author of the best-selling book Redeeming Childbirth, and the creator of the first ever Christian Postpartum Course. Angie loves ministering to Women and has created a few online Bible Studies on Biblical Friendship and Motherhood.

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