“Overcoming Parenting Overwhelm”

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A raw and personal episode that will encourage you with Biblical truth.

If you are a parent, you feel overwhelmed sometimes. Tune in to get Biblical truth and practical insights in moving from being overwhelmed back to joyful parenting. It’s a transparent episode with personal stories and Biblical truth.

Main Points in This Episode:

  1. There are no perfect parents, but we do need to be diligent.
  2. Perspective is important, sometimes we over dwell on the problems overlooking the blessings.
  3. The more we think about ourselves the more we are likely to doubt our capabilities. Instead, let’s dwell on God and what He can do through us.
  4. Change is a process, not a quick destination. Patience and perseverance are required.

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Scripture in This Episode:

Galatians 6:9 – “And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not.”

Colossians 3:15 – “And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to the which also ye are called in one body; and be ye thankful.”

Philippians 4:8-9 –Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. Those things, which ye have both learned, and received, and heard, and seen in me, do: and the God of peace shall be with you.”

Proverbs 3:6 – “In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.”

Romans 12:12 – “Rejoicing in hope; patient in tribulation; continuing instant in prayer”

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Welcome to Courageous Parenting podcast, a weekly show to equip parents with biblical truth on raising confident Christian kids in an uncertain world.

Hi, I’m Angie from courageous

Mom and I’m Isaac from Resolute Ma’am.

We’ve been married for twenty one years and have seen the fruit from raising our eight kids biblically. Based on the raw truth found in the

Bible, we can no longer let the culture win the hearts of children. Too many children from Christian families are walking away from their faith by age 18, and it doesn’t have to be this way. It shouldn’t be this way. Join us as we start an important conversation about effective parenting and the following. Welcome to the podcast. Hey, guys. We’re talking about overcoming parenting overwhelm

If you have experienced being overwhelmed. You know why we’re covering this podcast. This I have a feeling this could potentially become one of our most tuned into podcasts. It’s every parent has experienced being overwhelmed at one point or another.

And there’s a lot of change happening. You know, we’re either trying to change things or we’re responding to circumstances that cause us to change or as the new year. And there’s just changes in our lives that seems to happen a lot. And or maybe we’re just desiring for things to be changed and it’s not happening or it’s not happening fast enough.

You know, I even think from my perspective, even twenty two years into parenting, there are still things that I am trying to implement for the first time as a mom, whether it’s a new curriculum that I’m trying or a new habit that I’m trying to get my family to instill or to be executing on a regular basis. And anything new can create overwhelm because you don’t know if it’s actually going to work right. And so there there is, I think, a lot of people out there, especially even right now, who most of them their lifestyle choices or the things that they’re implementing because they are encouraged by biblical parenting. A lot of those things can potentially become an overwhelming chore or task, especially if they didn’t see it growing up.

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Absolutely. So let’s stay connected. One way is to subscribe to our email, which you can do in our social handles. You can hit the link and there’s a way to do that. And Angie’s and Mine and courageous parenting also join the app. It’s a great way to be a deeper part of the inner circle and get really good, you know, encouragement, encouragement. I think the most powerful thing, the most useful thing today is strong community. Yeah. And while your primary strength of community should be at your church, the reality is around the world. Some places that’s difficult and you’re looking for that and we don’t want to replace that. But what people are finding is while they’re trying to find that, or even if they have that, they’re getting an expanded network of biblical believers that can connect with and be real with and get wisdom from.

Yeah, its community is one of those invaluable things today, for sure.

Anyway, there’s a lot we could say, but we appreciate all your help and sharing every time you share. I know you’re raising your hands saying I’m part of the one million legacies movement, so we’re going to dive in. The first point for you guys is when you’re feeling overwhelmed. I think it’s to realize that there are no perfect parents. There are no perfect people. That’s why there’s actually a need for Jesus to make us right with God. So just remember that that you’re in similar shoes is everybody else is that we’re imperfect people and we have imperfect kids and we’re trying to raise up God’s little humans to be responsible adults, but also to have a great commission mindset to share the gospel and whatever they do and to love God and follow after God. And that is hard in the moments of the mundane sometimes. And so the point is to don’t there is no perfect parents, but we do need to be diligent. Now I know we’re talking about not being overwhelmed, so I’m not trying to put something on your shoulders, but we’re not going to prevent the truth from coming out, either, which is we do need to be diligent.

Mm hmm. So what Isaac is saying is in the midst of being overwhelmed if you are an overwhelmed parent today, do not. Allow. Choose right now in the moment to not allow the overwhelm to paralyze you from doing good. From doing the good that God has called you to do as a parent, which is to be diligent, Deuteronomy six says, teach them diligently to love the Lord, your god. And so we need to remember that there is definitely jurisdiction’s responsibilities that God has given us. And sometimes all of those, when we look at all of them, could be potentially overwhelming. I’ll hey, I’ll just start this podcast out sharing and confessing to you guys. There have been many times in my life where I’ve been overwhelmed and I come to Isaac and he, if I haven’t gone to God first and he’ll go, Hey. Ok, let’s let’s talk this out, and he’s there for me as a listening ear, and he’ll help me to remember what’s most important and what’s most important. The end of the day is that your kids know that you love them and that you are pointing them to Jesus. And so I just want to remind you of that really important thing. If there’s one thing you take away from the podcast, it’s that you want your kids to know that they love that you love them and that they know that God loves them so that they love him and and that they know who he is, that they love him because of who he is, not because of what he’s done, or that he because he loves them. But.

And I just want to encourage you if you listen to our podcast every single week or you started over again, you’re going to have so much good wisdom, but there’s no way to implement everything immediately in every single episode. Now the good news is a lot of them are just encouraging. A lot of them are just awareness and in and I’m sure some of them, you’re going right on. I’m doing that. Oh, here’s something I could add to it. And that’s hopefully encouraging to you guys. But remember that every family is unique and on a journey. And as long as you’re diligent to do what Angie just talked about, that’s most important. There’s so many things we can focus on, and sometimes if there’s so many things we feel like we need to change, we get paralyzed, which is what you’re talking about, which is let’s make sure we start there. Let’s simplify to what’s most important, which is what Angie just did.

And I think that’s good. And I think that, you know, when it comes to that sort of thing and you really evaluate and you go, Do my kids know that I love them and you’re like, Well, I kiss them. I said, I love you. I, you know, I spent a long time with them. I read them a book. These different things like if you think about how your kids feel loved and what you did that day, I’m sure that your kids probably went to bed knowing that you love them. And that is a huge like. We don’t want to be the type of parents that need to check things off the box. But if you are that personality type, that should be on your list because if you have a list of things and and you’re not able to get to them because you are putting what’s most important first and then at the end of the day, you look at your list and you have nothing checked off your list that can be super overwhelming and discouraging. And so I just want to remind you that all of that could be erased. And you could say, Do my kids know I love them? And that would be enough. And so I I think that this is something that I have to remind myself of on a regular basis when I hit overwhelm because there are times where even in that overwhelm, I have to take a deep breath.

I have to like calm my breathing down. I don’t know if you’ve ever gotten to that place before. But when you are in the midst of that, you need to remember a few things. One of them is in Galatians Chapter six, verse nine, which says, And let us not grow weary of doing good for in due season. We will reap if we do not give up, if we do not get up, give up. Maybe you’ve been listening to the podcast for a while. If you have, we did an entire podcast on this specific verse and breaking it down. It’s called Don’t grow weary, doing good. You got to go and you’ve got to listen to that. That was a great podcast. But this specific verse is about sowing and reaping also, and there are times where overwhelm can equal weary. But there are also times where maybe you’re not weary, but you’re overwhelmed because you’re weary spiritually. Maybe you’re not. Hear me again. Maybe you’re not weary physically, but you are weary spiritually. And so that is what this is talking about. We need to not grow weary. Let us not grow weary. So what do you need to put into your life so that you do not grow weary spiritually?

And the Bible is so amazing. You know this. But if you’ve been spiritually dry for a while, if you get in a quiet place and you ask God to make his words make sense to you, and then you read his word with a sincere heart. You are going to be filled. That is a promise

He gives to us without partiality, is what James three says. So I. Or James one, when it’s talking about wisdom and I, you know, it’s interesting because as we’re talking about being weary and this concept of like weary physically versus weary spiritually because you can become overwhelmed if you’re feeling either of those things, sometimes parents need to just stop and ask, why? Why am I overwhelmed? I know that this is our second point, which is perspective. And that’s the why your perspective is why? Why are you? Why are you overwhelmed? Do you have too much on your plate? That’s a good question to ask. Another good question to ask is am I sowing what I or am I reaping what I’ve been sowing, which is what Galatians six nine was just talking about, right? If you will reap what you sow, if you go and look at Galatians six six, it talks even more in depth for the next three or four verses about sowing and reaping. It says Make no mistake that a man will reap what he sows. That’s both good and bad. And so if you are overwhelmed, you have to get perspective and guys, this could be convicting to you.

But I’m not going to hold back because I think this is a really important aspect of parenting. If you are physically weary from parenting, you need a sit back and say, Why am I weary? Is it something that needs to change regarding my sleep or my diet? Am I not eating enough, right? Physically wary? Or am I physically and spiritually and emotionally weary? Because it’s I’m like dealing with the same attitude issue with that little child over and over and over and over and over again. And I feel like I’m not making any progress and I’m getting discouraged spiritually. I’m doing good work, but I’m growing weary, doing good. The Bible says Let us not grow weary, doing good in the same verse, it talks about sowing and reaping. And so the next question is what is it that I have been sowing in my child over his lifetime or in the last month? That needs to change because what I’m reaping from what I’ve sown is making me weary.

So you could be doing something right to tend to your child in their bad behavior consistently even. But if there’s something over here that is off

By

Impacting that,

Like I even think about like what show or media has your kid? Potentially, this is just one example. You guys are so many examples we could give, but you may be doing everything right as a parent regarding your relationship and communication with your child. But if you’re sitting them down in front of a TV show that is encouraging disrespect of parents and disobedience and rebellious spirit, and they’re watching that show, you can expect that same fruit in your child

Or if or if they’re around other kids that do that. But this is about you not being overwhelmed. And so I also think that it’s important to have perspective in terms of what is going right. A lot of times people tend to navigate towards what’s going wrong when there’s probably five times more things going right and that you could be blessed and you could be appreciative of. And the more you list those out and you think about those things the Bible talks about in Philippians dwelling upon what is good, beautiful, right? All these things, it’s important to dwell. Even Bible tells us to focus on the good things to dwell on. The good things is not to escape that we might need to improve. Something might need to make an improvement. As in a parent. It’s not a reason not to focus on that, but what we should be dwelling on is the goodness of God’s word and the good things that are happening. Good things that God is doing in your family, in your marriage, in your life, and to have some perspective. So sometimes we’re out of perspective because we think about this thing. That’s wrong. And then we go on a bunny trail of many more things that are wrong, and all we’re doing is being a wrong hunter and we need to be a good hunter and we need to be a good hunter with our kids, too. And sometimes that can put us on a track that makes even more contention between us and our kids. And so we hold the baton of the culture of our home. And so if we’re becoming a wrong hunter that we’re we’re holding a torch for of wrong hunting and that can even spread that could spread within our kids, in between the siblings.

I mean, think about the whole concept of the rotten apple makes the entire bull go rotten, right? And so if you are the are you the rotten apple? I hate to say that, but as far as perspective goes, I know that for me, I tend to at times struggle with looking at what’s going. Ong, versus looking at what’s going right and that can be a really negative place. And so like many years ago, when Isaac and I were running a business together, we had this thing called Naig police. Do you remember that? And you were like, Hey, no neg here. And and it was like, Yeah, I mean, that really changes your attitude. It changes your countenance, and your countenance is so important with your kids because you set the atmosphere. So if you’re constantly negative and you’re struggling with kids having a bad attitude, a lot of times they’re mimicking you. But the verse that Isaac is talking about is Philippians four, verse eight, which says, Finally, brethren whatsoever, things are true whatsoever. Things are honest whatsoever. Things are just whatsoever. Things are pure whatsoever. Things are lovely whatsoever. Things are of good report if there be any virtue and if there be any praise, think on these things.

I remember a time where the very worst things were happening to us and very challenging time, and I remember lying in bed and I was just reciting that because I’d studied that scripture and I think I preached on it. And and then I was just it would the negative would come in my mind, why is this happening to us or why did this happen or what do I do? I know we might lose everything. I don’t know, right? All these things, the worry right? And all of a sudden know what is true focus on what is lovely books, you know? And I would recite that in my brain and I go in and it would just disappear. Everything would disappear. And God is in control, and I just need to be a good steward. I just need to be obedient and joyful in all circumstances. He does give us an equation. He wants us to be obedient and joyful in all circumstances so that he’s glorified through your trial. Mm hmm. So also in Colossians three fifteen, it says, and let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body. Oh, and also says and be thankful and let the word of Christ dwell in you richly teaching, admonishing one another and all wisdom, singing psalms and so forth. But this is so, so cool because we have to let this

Our attitude

Of Christ rule what is ruling. It means completely consuming, consuming rule in our hearts, does Christ rule in your heart today? That’s convicting for me. Does Christ rule in my heart today? I would say part of this morning, not, you know, it’s like we have to be reminded continuously, maybe memorize that scripture and ask yourself, is Christ ruling my heart right now? Because if he is, we’re going to move away from overwhelm.

Mm hmm. It’s interesting how overwhelmed can be triggered in people. Overwhelm can be triggered by just. Have you ever said the that was the icing on the cake? Right. That was the the straw that broke the camel’s back. There are many. You’re like laughing at me because these are old idioms that you know, we that people like my grandma, my great grandma used to say these things all the time when she was on the verge of becoming overwhelmed. And there are times where I think through and I go, Why is it that there’s a list of things? And then all of a sudden there’s one more thing, and that’s what does it? Mm hmm. Because the list is us focusing on the wrong things. Mm hmm. There shouldn’t even be a list. Where else do we see this? We see this in First Corinthians 13, when it says love does not keep a record of wrongs. That’s hugely convicting to me, because if if love doesn’t keep a record of wrongs, why are we keeping a record of wrongs with our kids? Why are we keeping a record of wrongs with our husband? Why are we keeping a record of wrongs with anyone, right instead? What should be our response? Because the reality is we will reap what we so so if we are sowing keeping a record of wrongs? Then we’re going to be sewing that and that relationship also.

Yeah. Christ wants us to be set free. He wants us to be set free to to do his work and to attract others to him, which includes your kids, maybe your husband if he’s not a believer.

So I would say that, you know, going back to looking at the second point, which we’ve labeled perspective, you brought a totally different teaching and perspective on this concept. And I just want to encourage people that it probably is a good idea if you’re going to be getting perspective to start out with what Isaac was talking about today, which is focusing on the things that are good and praising God and having joy because that’s going to change your heart attitude and it’s going to bring your blood pressure down, to be real honest. But at the same time, the reality is is you could turn around, go back into your kitchen or your home with your kids and be quickly triggered into being overwhelmed again. If there is truly something that needs to change in your parenting or in what you’re exposing your kids to. And so I would say that after you have changed your perspective regarding what you’re focusing on and you find you’re really you’re at peace with God and with the way things are, then turn around and go, What is the what is the why? Why am I experiencing these things and then try to make change on those things first? Those character depart eternal issue things. Now, the third point we want to talk about is what

You want to be not focused so much on yourself and more focused on the bigger purposes. And what is the bigger purposes and you talked about earlier is to glorify God and everything you do. But sometimes we’re we don’t even realize it, but we’re having a pity party with ourselves. Husbands do this. Wives do this. Ok, we inside won’t admit it very often, but we’re like, Woe is me. Why is this happening? Or were I am not capable? I’m not as good as so and so over there on Instagram. I’m not as talented, I’m not as smart, I’m not as beautiful or strong, right? Whatever the situation is that you’re thinking that doubt, it actually means your self-focused. Potentially, it means that your focus is too much on yourself. Someone once said there’s nothing worse than someone that has, and this may not be you, but a lot of money and all the time they want on their hands. And the reason is because that is the ultimate of potentiality for self focus. Ok, but that’s definitely not our listeners. But I think about I think about why do we get so self focused and start doubting ourselves? I think there’s an enemy at hand. The enemy doesn’t want you to raise up and equip confident, strong Christian kids.

The enemy does not want your marriage to be strong and amazing, and a light for the gospel in a The Bride of Christ. He doesn’t want it to look like that the enemy wants to destroy you. There is a spiritual warfare that’s happening now. The good news is God is way more powerful than the enemy. Of course, we don’t want to give strength to the enemy, but doesn’t mean we don’t acknowledge it. And there’s also our own human ness. And that’s at play right here, which the enemy exploits. And so wherever you’re weak, the enemy is going to exploit that and you have to understand that and your spouse should know where you’re weak and where you’re doubting yourself. And you guys should talk about that so that you can build each other up and stir up the good work amongst each other, which is really important. So I just think that a lot of times we’re we’re actually when we’re overwhelmed, it might be because we’re doubting ourselves and all these things. And what’s the fastest way to cure self-doubt is to remind yourself of who we are in Christ. God says, you’re a saint. Because of what Jesus did on the cross

And in your weakness, he is strong. When Isaac is talking about taking the focus off self and having your focus be triggered on the purpose, what is the purpose? The purpose is actually God. It’s a great commission. It’s making him known in the world. And so we chose to share with you guys just to remind you of this verse. I know that you all know it says trust in the Lord with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding and all your ways. Acknowledge him and he will make your paths straight. This is something he’s doing. He’s the one that makes the paths straight. You, you can’t. You can’t make your path straight. He will make your path straight if you do not lean on your own understanding if you don’t focus on yourself. And so this this whole concept actually reminds me of a very simple thing that I preach to myself many times, which is less of me and more of him. Hey, man, less of me and more of him. That has to do with our homemaking. It has to do with our marriage, less of me and more of him because he’s going to be more grace giving. He’s going to be more forgiving. He’s going to be more gentle, he’s going to be more kind, less of me and more of him regarding homeschooling, right? Like, I even think about just I’ll share again this last week, I was very overwhelmed.

Every four to six months, I’m reevaluating our curriculum. What we’re using for each kid, every kid is so different. And so of course, we’ve used lots of different curriculums over the years. But the truth is is that as kids are growing and they’re getting stimulated and they’re cruising through a curriculum, they finish it. You need to get a new one, so you need to evaluate the old one. You don’t just I don’t just go by the same thing over and over again and reuse it with each kid. Now there are some tried and true programs for teaching certain things like phonics or basic early math and things like that that are great. But the reality is is as your kids get older and you start seeing their personality and you start seeing the different aspects of how God made them, it could become very easily overwhelming for a mom if she’s homeschooling more than one kid. Right? And so and I know that not everyone homeschool is, but I know that many of you do. And so I’m just sharing this with you. This is a reality that I even still still deal with. But again, I have to go less of me, more of him and changing that perspective again.

Those go hand in hand because you guys, this last week, part of my overwhelm was that I was focusing on what we have not done and overwhelmed by the thought of what are the things I need to have prepared my kids for by the time they launch our home and getting overwhelmed with all of the things for all of the kids. And then Isaac said, Hold on, hold on, hold on. Let’s look at what we have done. Like, let’s let’s look at what has been done and focusing on the good things for a second. And then all of a sudden and then we start having a little meeting with the kids a little bit later and they’re like, No, we’ve done this, we’ve done that. And then all of a sudden we’re laughing. There was joy back in this conversation, and there was a sigh of relief in a lot of ways because it was like, Wow, we’ve done so much more than was is actually needed, like on a human level. Praise God, that’s totally him. That is trusting his ways, walking out what he’s called you to in obedience. Like Isaac said, what does God call you to cause you to trust him and to obey him and to have joy and obey?

Amen. And sometimes there’s so many possibilities. There’s in the business world, this amazing innovator. He writes books about innovation for corporate America. Friend of mine. And he talks about how studies prove that when you’re trying to improve something that if you have endless possibilities, you actually are less innovative and are least likely less likely to solve the problem than if you put some boundaries around the ideas. And so simplifying actually gets you more innovative, simplifying to what actually the core of something is and not trying to think of everything actually brings a solution faster in a better solution. And so amazing books have been written by this guy on this, and it’s something that I’ve taken to heart because, OK, if there’s all these things, what really matters? Let’s make the short list. And then from that short list, let’s find the supporting things that make those things happen. Mm hmm.

Totally. So as we’re moving into the final point, which is change is a process, not a quick destination or event. Think about that for a second. Change is a process. It’s going to take a little longer than just like snapping your fingers, making a decision. It’s not like all of a sudden it’s kind of like working out, right? Like, you can have all the good intentions in the world to work out. You can even plan it out. You can have time scheduled and all the things. But the result? Takes time. It’s a process. It’s not like you automatically get back to where you wanted to be, right? And it’s the same thing with any other change that you’re making, and so have grace with yourself, even in this process of becoming good at managing overwhelm. Can I just say that? Be patient with yourself as you’re trying to manage overwhelm? What I mean by that is that guys, there are going to be times where you get overwhelmed and you may go, Oh man, I just listen to that podcast. Why am I doing this again? They said, I need to focus on what’s good, and they said, I need to ask the good why and have perspective give myself grace to not have to be perfect. But I need to keep being diligent on the things I need to take the focus off myself. Put it back on Jesus Christ. Be patient because change is a process like, I get it. I get the four points I understand. Why am I back here again? You’re you’re back there again because. It’s a process and God wants to teach you through that process. So if there is a final question that we get to ask, yes, I’m saying we get to ask this, it’s God. What are you trying to teach me through this process?

Amen. In Romans, 12 12 says Rejoice in hope, be patient and tribulation. Be constant in prayer. So rejoice in the hope that through Christ, we have and do not be. So rejoice, rejoice, not be patient and tribulation. So if there’s challenges, we have to be patient as Andrew is talking about, and prayer is an important part we haven’t talked about yet, but says it right there in scripture. So what do you need to bring to the Lord right now? Lord, change my heart. Lord help me to be focused on what’s good lord? Would you be with me as I navigate changes for my kids?

God, would you please reveal your truth to me in this moment and help me to take any thought captive that is making me feel like a failure that is leading to overwhelm? Lord, would you help me to be patient with myself as I’m trying new things, as I’m making change in my life or my family? And God, would you help me to have patience with other people, to not just myself

And guys husbands out there? I would be asking God to help me to listen to my wife, to not just try and fix things, but to listen well, long and let her discover solutions versus always giving solutions. I think there’s a good mix of that, but I think praying for patients to an understanding and that your marriage could be an amazing team working together using each other’s gifts for the glory of God in your family.

Yeah, I think that sometimes just one last marriage, I guess it’s a marriage encouragement or marriage tip. I think that one of the things that is potentially hard for a lot of women, but they’re missing out on something huge in their marriage. If they don’t share their struggles or they’re overwhelmed with their spouse and and maybe they’re sharing them, but they’re not allowing the spouse to lead, they’re not allowing their their husband to encourage them with what the good he does see. Guys, that’s one of the most powerful things when I come to Isaac and I am overwhelmed, OK? He oftentimes brings a perspective that I’m overlooking, which is all the good things, and I need those reminders sometimes to be able to calm down in that moment where my heart might be beating fast and I feel like I need to make decisions right away, or I feel like I’m failing in something. He brings the correct perspective because he sees it. And so, ladies, I just want to encourage you to let to sit and listen after you bring your problem like and let your husband encourage you. Let him speak truth. Let him help you to know what thoughts need to be taken captive at times, because sometimes I need to be reminded that that’s not entirely true, that you’re not. That’s not actually true. You’re doing a good job in this and this and this and this and that can be huge for just diffusing the fire that the enemy lit called overwhelm. Thanks for joining us. See you next time. Hey, thanks for listening to this episode. For more resources, go to courageous parenting and courageous mom for free online workshops, blog posts and best selling courses. Also, we wanted to quickly tell you about our six week online parenting mentor program. Isaac and I created a powerful biblical curriculum. Here’s how it works. Each week, we release a video with a downloadable parenting packet to make it easy for you to incorporate those teachings directly into your parenting.

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Written By Angie Tolpin
Angie has been married to Isaac for 19 years and together they have eight children, whom she homeschools. She is the Founder of CourageousMom.com, a doula, the author of the best-selling book Redeeming Childbirth, and the creator of the first ever Christian Postpartum Course. Angie loves ministering to Women and has created a few online Bible Studies on Biblical Friendship and Motherhood.

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