This is a special episode. Today we have our daughter Megan joining us!

We have decided that today we want to talk about raising biblically strong and submissive daughters.

We are going to talk about what it means to be biblically strong and biblically submissive in today’s crazy world. 

So let’s dive in!

Raising Biblically Strong & Submissive Daughters

1. Worldly Culture Vs. Biblical Culture

2.  Submissive Daughters

3. Raising Strong Daughters
   

 1. Worldly Culture Vs. Biblical Culture

• This is a big topic. A lot of people don’t like the word submissive or the idea of submission, in fact, because of increasing feminism we see more and more rebellion against submission.
• Because of feminism the word strong has been abused and turned into something other than what it is meant to be. 1828 Webster Dictionary’s definition of the word strong is “having physical active power or great physical power. Having the power of exerting great bodily force, vigorous, a strong man will lift twice his own weight. Having the ability to bear or endure.”
• the ability to bear or endure is a quality that we should want our daughters to have because life is hard, you are going to go through trials at some point in your life and we should desire for our daughters to be able to bear burdens with their husbands and be able to handle trials even before they are married! Before you are married you should be able to stand strong in the Lord and his might. Based on this definition we should want our daughters to be strong.
• Sadly today the word strong has been beaten and bashed. In today’s culture, strong women are portrayed as vicious and vulgar. They use profanity and anything possible to make their voices louder and force it into people’s faces! Being forceful, vulgar, radical and out of control are aspects of what would be considered strong that are not biblical!

 

2. Submissive Daughters

• Here is a definition of submission from the 1828 webster dictionary “the act of submitting, the act of yielding to power or authority, a surrender of the person and power to the control or government of one another. Acknowledgment of inferiority or dependence, humble or suppliant behavior, acknowledgment of a fault, confession of error, obedience, compliance with the commands or laws of a superior, this is a Christian duty of prime excellence.”
•  A lot of times people think of submissive women as humble, quiet, weak women who are sheep and obey and do everything they are told and never have a voice, never lead and are treated like a doormat. 
• So the word submission has been pinned with a bad reputation by the world, especially in recent years, and that reputation of submission has seeped into the church to the point where people hardly feel comfortable with discussing it. 
• The topic we are asked most to talk about in our podcasts is obedience, but the thing is unless your children are taught to be submissive to authority they will not be obedient!
• The first step towards obedience is submitting your will to authority. If you are not submitted you will not obey. So to all you parents wanting obedient children you need to talk to your kids and teach them to be submissive! And guess what, if you are not being submissive to God an the authority placed in your life whether it be your husband or mentor and God then your kids will not be submissive to you.
• Our first goal is that we and our kids would be submitted to God. and that is what Jesus model for us, he submitted his will to the Father while he was on the cross. 
• Submission should not be a topic that we avoid. Obedience is a form of submission and we need to teach submission to our children so that when they are ready they can submit their wills to God.
• James 4:7 says “Therefore submit to God. Resist the devil and he will flee from you.” 
• Submitting to authority is usually only possible when you are not being arrogant or prideful. 
• Hebrews 13:17 says “Obey those who rule over you and be submissive, for they watch out for your souls, as those who must give account. Let them do so with joy and not with grief, for that would be unprofitable for you.”
• In today’s society, there is an independent, autonomous, individualistic nature and people want to make themselves known they want a platform, their name on everything which is just about pushing up their self-esteem and ego instead of making God known we try so desperately to make ourselves known. 
• When you truly understand the great commission and you know your real purpose in life and you understand that you are on earth to make God known and to know him more and to create disciples when you truly understand that these things are your real purpose, pride is can no longer be a part of your agenda. 
• Romans 13:1-7 says “Let every soul be subject to the governing authorities. For there is no authority except God, and the authorities that exist are appointed by God. Therefore whoever resists the authority resists the ordinance of God, and those who resist will bring judgment on themselves. For rulers are not a terror to good works, but to evil. Do you want to be unafraid of the authority? Do what is good, and you will have praise from the same. For he is God’s minister to you for good. But if you do evil, be afraid; for he does not bear the sword in vain; for he is God’s minister, an avenger to execute wrath on him who practices evil. Therefore you must be subject, not only because of wrath but also for conscience’ sake. For because of this you also pay taxes, for they are God’s ministers attending continually to this very thing. Render therefore to all their due: taxes to whom taxes are due, customs to whom customs, fear to whom fear, honor to whom honor.”
• A lot of people forget that one aspect of showing respect for authority is that you are rendering due to whom it is due. 
• If we are raising our kids permissively and we are not setting boundaries or expecting obedience we are not making it known what our expectations are and then holding them accountable. If your kids do not respect you in the home they will not respect anyone else outside of the home, and that goes for teachers, babysitters, friends, relatives, etc. 
• It is important to raise your daughters to be ready for their futures. 
• We can’t know what God’s plans are for our children but what we do know is that he wants them to follow him and be a light for him. It’s our job as parents to equip our daughters for the possibility of marriage, to educate them adequately for them to accomplish their dreams and callings and to prepare them for everything that life will throw their way. 
• It is important to talk to your daughters about modesty. The topic of modesty is a controversial one. Mostly because modesty is subjective. What may seem modest to one person could be immodest to another and that’s why we need to navigate and figure out what we believe is modest using wisdom and insight from the bible. 
• The bible tells us to treat our bodies as a holy temple, is our body holy if we are immodest? The bible also tells us not to tempt a brother to sin. We are not here to talk about modesty but what we do want to impress upon you is that you can cultivate a desire in your daughter’s heart to be modest before the Lord. 
• It is important to be aware of these things because the reality is that when a young girl or woman is not walking strong with the Lord and is not leaning on the Lord for adoration and love she will try and find it somewhere else and that could lead immodesty and impurity when it goes too far. 
•  It is important to discuss these things with your kids and explain to them why you do or don’t do certain things because that allows them to be able to agree or disagree for themselves and find where they stand, and then when issues such as modesty come up they are able to discern and make decisions on their own because they have conviction and understanding on the matter at hand. 
• Ephesians 5:22 says “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.”
• Colossians 3:18 says “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.”
• 1 Peter 3:1-7 says “Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear. Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel— rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God. For in this manner, in former times, the holy women who trusted in God also adorned themselves, being submissive to their own husbands, as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, whose daughters you are if you do good and are not afraid with any terror. Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.”

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3. Raising Strong Daughters

• We should want to raise our daughters to be strong but we do not want them to be the world definition of strong rather the biblical definition of a strong woman. 
• Joshua 1:9 says “Have I not commanded you? Be strong and of good courage; do not be afraid, nor be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.” 
• From this verse, it is obvious that God wants us to be strong. The world is so unpredictable, it is uncertain and crazy, we need to be strong if we are going to be in the world! We need to raise our daughters (and sons) to be strong so that they are not deceived by the world and its many corrupt agendas. 
• We need to teach our children about the world so that they can be equipped to run the race well! How are they supposed to be strong and stand firm against the world if they are not educated and aware of the evil set against them? 
• The two most important things you need to talk to your daughters (or sons) about is walking with the Lord and the person they will marry. Because those two things will affect their futures. 
• Isaiah 40:29-31 says “He gives power to the weak, And to those who have no might He increases strength. Even the youths shall faint and be weary, And the young men shall utterly fall, But those who wait on the Lord shall renew their strength; They shall mount up with wings like eagles, They shall run and not be weary, They shall walk and not faint.”
• 2 Timothy 1:7 says “For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and love and a sound mind.”
• So God doesn’t want us to be full of fear or lacking the knowledge and becoming deceived and potentially falling away. 
• Philippians 4:13 says “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”
• Ephesians 6:10 says “Finally, my brethren, be strong in the Lord and in the power of His might.”

 

Final Thoughts 

Are you modeling for your children what you want for them?

Are you submissive to God, to your husband and to the authorities God has given you?

Do you give honor where honor is due?

Do you teach these things to your kids?

Scripture In This Episode:

James 4:7 – “Therefore submit to God. Resist the devil and he will flee from you.”

Hebrews 13:17 – “Obey those who rule over you and be submissive, for they watch out for your souls, as those who must give account. Let them do so with joy and not with grief, for that would be unprofitable for you.”

Romans 13:1-7 – “Let every soul be subject to the governing authorities. For there is no authority except God, and the authorities that exist are appointed by God. Therefore whoever resists the authority resists the ordinance of God, and those who resist will bring judgment on themselves. For rulers are not a terror to good works, but to evil. Do you want to be unafraid of the authority? Do what is good, and you will have praise from the same. For he is God’s minister to you for good. But if you do evil, be afraid; for he does not bear the sword in vain; for he is God’s minister, an avenger to execute wrath on him who practices evil. Therefore you must be subject, not only because of wrath but also for conscience’ sake. For because of this you also pay taxes, for they are God’s ministers attending continually to this very thing. Render therefore to all their due: taxes to whom taxes are due, customs to whom customs, fear to whom fear, honor to whom honor.”

Ephesians 5:22 – “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.”

Colossians 3:18 – “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.”

1 Peter 3:1-7 – “Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear. Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel— rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God. For in this manner, in former times, the holy women who trusted in God also adorned themselves, being submissive to their own husbands, as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, whose daughters you are if you do good and are not afraid with any terror. Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.”

Joshua 1:9 –“Have I not commanded you? Be strong and of good courage; do not be afraid, nor be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.” 

Isaiah 40:29-31 –“He gives power to the weak, And to those who have no might He increases strength. Even the youths shall faint and be weary, And the young men shall utterly fall, But those who wait on the Lord shall renew their strength; They shall mount up with wings like eagles, They shall run and not be weary, They shall walk and not faint.”

2 Timothy 1:7 – “For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and love and a sound mind.”

Philippians 4:13 – “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”

Ephesians 6:10 – “Finally, my brethren, be strong in the Lord and in the power of His might.”

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